With Valentine’s Day coming up, it’s important to start thinking about how to make it special for your significant other. Many of us are under the impression that love is a ‘one size fits all’ notion so we give our better half flowers, roses, chocolates, etc., but what if we are giving them something they don’t necessarily want? Author Gary Chapman discovered that each of us have a ‘love language’ and that in order to fully express love to our significant other, we need to express love in their language. He goes in to great detail about the five languages of love: Words of Affirmation, Gifts, Quality Time, Physical Touch and Acts of Service. You can read the book to gain better insight, but the languages are self explanatory. So, if you’re looking for some unique Valentine’s Day activities that will WOW your significant other based on their love language, read on…
Words of Affirmation. This language is exactly what it states. It’s the act of using words to build up the other person. Using words to make the other person feel good. If this is your significant other’s love language, for Valentine’s Day, think about writing cute notes and leaving them around the house for them to see. It can be as basic as a “You are the best person in the world” to “I love how willing you are to take care of our family and make us feel special.” You can also write long love letters that go into great detail of how great they are and how thankful you are to have them in your life. You can also combine this language with other activities from other languages.
Gifts. This is the language that EVERYONE thinks about on Valentine’s Day (and other occasions). This is the language that LOVES to get gifts such as flowers, chocolates, jewelry- you name it. If your significant other’s love language is gifts, why don’t you try to spice it up and really personalize the gift. Sure, jewelry and chocolates are great, but what if it’s something your significant other has been dying to have and wants it NOW?
Quality Time. This language is self explanatory. If your significant other’s love language is quality time, then you know what to do- SPEND TIME WITH THEM! Need some unique ideas? How about going to a cooking class at Louisville’s “Cooking at the Cottage?” They have a great spread and it will be a great experience. If you are looking to spend less money and hang out at home, how about having an indoor (or outdoor) campout? During the indoor campout, make camp food and set up indoor tents! Roast marshmallows over a stove top (cautiously) and make s’mores! If you’re more outdoorsy (and love the cold) people, take the camping outdoors! Make a fire pit and cook food, roast marshmallows and sleep in the tent or camper! Other ideas you can do are a themed movie night and dinner (pick a movie’s filming location and make cuisine from that city or country) or refer to our ‘Cozy Places to Spend Valentine’s Day in Kentucky’ blog for some great bed and breakfasts or spa hotels!
Physical Touch. Obviously this language is the act of touching. You can do any of the above activities, add some physical touch and voila!
Acts of Service. This language is the act of doing something for your significant other. It can’t be just anything either. Think of something your significant other does all the time and rarely asks for help doing. This can be washing dishes, taking out the trash, cleaning the house, doing laundry, cutting the grass, changing the oil, fixing things, taking the dog on a walk, cooking, picking the kids up, we can go on and on. You can also think of something they don’t like doing and do it for them!
This Valentine’s Day, make it special by giving based on your significant other’s love language. The hard part is figuring out what their language is, and then planning accordingly! If you’re not really into the love language thing and would rather go to dinner, take a look at our top restaurants to eat for Valentine’s Day, you’ll be glad you did!